My doctor looked at me, all serious and wise, and said:
“You should do yoga. And Pilates. And manage your stress to help with the menopausal symptoms.”
She smiled as if she had just handed me the secret to eternal joy.
I smiled back and said, “Sure.”
And just like that, she looked like she had fixed me.
Then she added, “It’s the new year, start fresh and strong!”
Woman. Please.
I walked out thinking… does she really believe she just performed a miracle? Like, she waved a magic wand and poof, my hormones are now calm, and I am emotionally stable.
She is a woman, just like anyone else. How could she forget the wild days and nights that come with perimenopause? Honestly, I did not walk out of her office feeling refreshed or empowered. I left feeling miserable. It is always the same pattern.
“Yes, I have experienced these symptoms for years.” I KNOW.“ Yes, I have had the blood tests, twice, mind you.” Each time, the response is: “You are probably perimenopausal.” “No, we will try an alternative to HRT and revisit later.” “Primrose for 6 months.” What I really need is some help with managing my moods, clearing the mental fog, and handling my spiritual struggles. I am looking for support beyond just another prescription I have already tried before.I want to set aside the “happy, positive, strong woman” mask for a moment. I need to talk about my depression, my lows, and the pain that is not linked to blood tests.
I could really use a big, invisible hug from everyone I know right now. Just some emotional support and a little reminder that I am not crazy would mean the world. And, of course, chocolate, definitely chocolate, because it always helps.
Well… yes, okay. I will pick up some chocolate and possibly ice cream too. Double fudge chocolate ice cream is the best.
Menopause does not believe in miracles, but does primrose really help? It can serve as a subtle, gentle aid, quiet, gradual, and non intrusive, without shouting “Do yoga” at you. It is also far humbler than anyone who claims to know how to fix your issues.
Primrose, derived from the seeds of the charming primrose flower, is packed with GLA, gamma linolenic acid, a fatty acid that plays a role in prostaglandin production and inflammatory pathways. In simple terms, it may gently support hormonal balance and reduce some inflammatory symptoms. Many women report some relief in hot flashes and night sweats, mood fluctuations, breast tenderness, dry skin and hair, and even joint discomfort, because menopause rarely settles for doing just one thing at a time.
From a more medical standpoint, evidence on evening primrose oil remains mixed. Some clinical studies suggest mild benefit, particularly in breast pain and inflammation-related symptoms, while others show limited or no significant effect on symptoms. It is generally considered safe when used in moderate doses, though it can interact with certain medications. This is where an actual conversation with a doctor would help, not just a cheerful prescription and a goodbye.
Ok then. I will give it a few weeks, check in properly this time, and if nothing else… at least I tried something before buying chocolate and ice cream. Again.
Dana Obeid
